That’s for You To Decide
You are the most important piece in casual sex. The whole point of meeting someone and enjoying some kinky shiz is to have some fun. If you want to hookup and not feel guilty about it, read on. (But you should go with the flow at first; never force sex when it’s not a mutual desire.) But that doesn’t mean that casual sex is always a good idea. In fact, if you’re not careful about whom you’re hooking up with, it could be a bad idea.
Here are some key tips about the risks of casual sex.
Your Age Matters
People who are 20 years older than you are more likely to have unprotected sex and to experience sexually transmitted diseases — say, herpes. About 10 percent of adults age 20 and older have herpes, according to the US Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC). Hooking up with an older person may be a turn-off for you, but it’s also a pretty risky move.
The CDC advises women who are pregnant or have STDs to use condoms during sex. This is especially important if you’re trying to conceive or have just been diagnosed with, say, chlamydia, gonorrhea, or hepatitis.
Ethnicity and Location Matters
And yes, hooking up with someone in a different race or from a different country could lead to you picking up some serious infections. Roughly 5 percent of all sexually transmitted diseases are reported in foreign-born adults, according to the CDC. These diseases also happen more frequently in men who have sex with men.
And consider the locations. Sexual activity on college campuses has skyrocketed, and the stigma around it is much lower than it used to be. That being said, it’s probably for the best that you stick to a safe space where none of your hookups happen to be naked together. This is especially true if you’re doing this for medical reasons, for instance, if you’re trying to get pregnant, or if you’re HIV-positive.
There’s a reason that girls like to say, “Condoms break my heart.” Nobody wants to have sex without them. Of course, for sexually transmitted diseases, condoms are crucial. And in the sexological sense, they come close to preventing male orgasm. But condoms are not 100 percent foolproof. If you’re hooking up with someone you don’t know well and/or you don’t trust — or you aren’t getting tested
(Yes.) But they’re not nearly as bad as a number of their health issues. Getting enough sleep every night is important for a long life — and helps preserve your sexual health. Sex and sleep habits are intimately connected. But like any other part of your body, you need to get your beauty sleep. Doing so means you’ll be less prone to sexually transmitted diseases, such as sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), too. You might know that they’re bad for you, but that’s not good enough. You need to do something about it. Try this first: To get the sleep you need, start by not engaging in sex right before bed. Give your body time to rest, and to no longer be subjected to stress. Look for the most comfortable place possible and have sex on your own, sans clothes. Then go to bed. This will help you get more sleep, and get ready for the next time you’re sexily (and comfortably) available. But if your stress — which is a big part of sex that drains your time to sleep — is out of control, you can look to other ways to deal with it. You can exercise — especially in the morning or just after sex. This can really put your mind at ease. Or look to therapies like biofeedback, which helps you regulate your breathing, thereby alleviating stress. It’s also important to note that you don’t have to just limit yourself to sex in the bedroom. Sex is beneficial to your body and mind, and can be done any time, anywhere. Hook up apps can lead to STDs, you’ve been warned. Many people have felt vulnerable to STDs through hookup apps, and that’s completely understandable — especially since we’re not immune to them, either. Multiple studies show that prevalence of STDs is growing across the world, and sexual health experts are urging young people to start talking more openly and honestly about these infections. A 2015 study showed that college students are less likely to use condoms when having sex, and the same is true for millennials who are adults. The findings showed that 22.7 percent of men and 18.4 percent of women surveyed used condoms about once a week; 10.6 percent of men and 6.5 percent of women used a condom once a month or more frequently. Knowing that our body and sexual health is at risk when it comes to engaging in casual sex doesn’t take